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No Growth in the Comfort Zone: How Secure Attachment Helps You Expand
No Growth in the Comfort Zone: How Secure Attachment Helps You Expand By Kerstyn Ludlow, MFT Intern You’ve probably heard the phrase:“There’s no growth in the comfort zone, and no comfort in the growth zone.” It’s a powerful reminder that personal...
What a Turtle Can Teach Us About Mental Health
Grounding in the Chaos: What a Turtle Can Teach Us About Mental Health By Emily Burnham, LAMFT I recently returned from South Korea, and its beauty and cultural depth continue to stay with me. But this trip was more than a vacation; it was also a unique group...
A Couples Therapist’s Honest Book Review
As therapists, we’re often asked what we think of popular relationship books—especially ones that clients bring in themselves. One of the most commonly referenced is Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. This bestseller has become a staple in conversations about dating and relationships, particularly among people trying to understand themselves and their partners better. So, what do we think of Attached from the perspective of couples therapy?
Attachment Isn’t Just for Kids: What It Means in Adult Relationships
Attachment Isn’t Just for Kids: What It Means in Adult Relationships Understanding Attachment Styles in Couples Therapy One of the most common concepts that comes up in couples therapy is attachment theory. While it’s often associated with early childhood development,...
Our Take on the Gottman Four Horsemen: Does It Mean the End of the Relationship?
Our Take on the Gottman Four Horsemen: Does It Mean the End of the Relationship? When Rachel and David walked into therapy, they sat on opposite ends of the couch, arms crossed, eyes heavy with exhaustion. "I don't know if this is even worth it anymore," Rachel...
How to Navigate Conflict in a Relationship Without Causing Harm
Fighting Fair: How to Navigate Conflict in a Relationship Without Causing Harm Conflict is inevitable in any relationship. How you argue, however, determines whether your relationship strengthens or suffers. Fighting fair means expressing your needs, emotions, and...
Understanding the 8 Phases of EMDR Therapy
Understanding the 8 Phases of EMDR Therapy How EMDR Works: 8 Phases EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy is a structured, evidence-based approach that helps individuals process and heal from trauma and other distressing life experiences. EMDR...
How EMDR Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal
Relationships aren’t easy. Maybe you and your partner feel stuck in the same arguments, disconnected from each other, or unable to move past old hurts. Betrayals, misunderstandings, or unresolved pain can leave you wondering if your relationship can ever feel strong...
Transform Your Resolutions into Lasting Change with EMDR Therapy
Transform Your Resolutions into Lasting Change with EMDR Therapy As we enter the new year, many of us feel inspired to create positive change in our lives. New Year's resolutions, such as losing weight, exercising more, or breaking old habits, are common goals. Yet,...
The Importance of Identifying and Talking About Relationship Expectations in Marriage
The Importance of Identifying and Talking About Relationship Expectations in Marriage When we enter a marriage or long-term partnership, we do so with hopes and dreams for a shared future. We imagine the companionship, support, and love we’ll build together. But...